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Saturday, March 26, 2011

Finding A Partner

This post is a direct response to an article on Lesliestar's website.

female skeleton sitting on a bus stop holding a sign that says she is waiting for the perfect manOn Lesliestar's article she talks about finding Mr. Right. I'll be honest and say that I don't know the first thing about finding Mr. Right. I don't believe in a Mr. or Ms. Right, mostly because I think it's something that people have fabricated to make themselves believe that there is a perfect guy or gal out there. This "Right" person might be up so high up on a pedestal that nobody has a chance. People need to realize that all relationships are tough, frustrating and full of challenges. The best partner you'll find is someone who is willing to work on the relationship as much as you.

How do you find a suitable partner? It's obviously a lot easier said (or typed) than done, but it can be done I promise. The first thing you want to do after getting out of a relationship is get over it and get back out there. By "there" I mean back on the hunt for a new partner. Life is too short to be sitting at home, moping about past failures. You need to focus 100% of your attention on personal development. To find someone better than your last, you'll need to improve yourself and/or raise your standards. Start doing things that you love to do. Go to the gym, walk your dog, party with friends, ride your bike, move into a new apartment and get addicted to Starbucks. You just need to get off your ass and into public, doing things that you love to do. These activities will not only take your mind off your crappy ex-partner, but they'll get you out "there" in they eyes of new potential friends and partners. 

So don't get to crazy about looking for Mr. or Ms. Right, just find someone that you share interests with and hopefully that person will want the same type of relationship that you do. 

IaN

1 comment :

  1. I love this article. It makes me want to get off my ass and find myself again. Thank you for inspiring me Ian. This has really helped me :)

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